What God has brought together no man shall separate.

October is drawing near and that means that it will make mine and Cody's 3year anniversary. Wow! I never imagined we would make it this far. Not that I had doubts about our marriage ,but because marriage is hard and so easily given up on now days. In the last three years Cody and I have been through a lot. We bought our first home , which was not the joyous process I dreamed it up to be. We suffered the loss of three babies, we had a sick child and when our sick child was two months old we were shocked with a positive pregnancy test! It could have been so easy to give up when our world around us crumbled. At times it even seemed as though the world around us was against us. Statistics say that out of every two marriages one will not make it. I have never wanted to be a statistic. It's very sad to me to see so many broken homes. I know some things happen in marriages that is hard to get past , but then I see marriages that nobody is willing to fight for. Marriage is a full time job. It's a full time job that takes a lot of commitment . When I sad my vows I not only made a promise to Cody that I would never leave I made a promise to God. Not only do I not want to break my promise to Cody I don't want to break my promise to God. Our marriage is not taken lightly. It's has been one of the hardest things I have ever had to work at. Cody and I are literally like oil and water. We have absolutely nothing in common. We do not think alike and we definitely do not act alike. We fight , but we also makeup. I think every good marriage fights. I love when I hear people say we never fight. I would love for someone to tell me how in the world do you live under the same roof as someone for 365 days out of the year and you do not disagree not once.hmmmmmm...... Not true isn't happening let's be real every good marriage has a good fight every once in awhile. I am here to tell you some of you would love to be a fly on the wall in my house. Sometimes we fight over the dumbest things , but hey it's keep us on our toes and there is never a dull moment. Ever since Cody and I met we have had to work for our relationship. It hasn't come easily. But it makes me love him even more. We don't always understand each other , buti know I don't want to put up with anyone else ,but him for the rest of my life. The hardest thing in my marriage so far was the fact that John-Michael was so sick as a new baby. It put so much stress on Cody and I. I am an emotional person as it is where as Cody shows no emotion(he's kind of dry):) so it was very hard to deal with my emotions because I think everyone should be emotional. It took us having a sick baby to re-evaluate our marriage. We had to go all the way back to October 3,2009 when we made a vow to stay together through thick and thin. We went back to what the scripture says and had to rearrange who we put first second and last. We should as scripture says put God first , then your husband or wife, then your children. Every marriage needs God. I know that is why half of the marriages now do not work. People and society have completely thrown God and the Bible out of their lives. When society started throwing Jesus out the window the world began to crumble. Keep in mind before you say "I DO" that you say it for the right reasons and not just for the flashy ring and wedding. Don't rush it. And work hard at it every single day. Remember that you make a vow to your spouse and God. And until you sign on the dotted line you are still in Gods eyes legally married and bound to that person. Do not take marriage lightly. And work on it before you decide to give up on it. People can change and we all must forgive.